Porn Star Katja Kassin recently reached out to a fan on her MySpace page and gave a very in depth answer to a question that she no doubt gets 100 times a month. The fan boi wanted to know how you can have sex with a porn star. Her answer is quite insightful and in depth.
Katja Kassin blogs : I just got this question for somebody and since people ask me this all the time over and over again, I want to post it here for all to read:
How do I bang a pornstar?
Look, I’m not even talking about you necessarily, I’ve wanted to fuck a pornstar for years, without paying, just through efforts known as “game” (I hate that term)… I’m a good looking dude, I’m clever as all hell, funny as a muthafucka, I’m not asking for a handout. I just want to know where I need to place myself so that I may be in a position to try my own hand, even if its just to get shut down (sometimes half the fun, HA!)… And not a fucking strip club… I don’t even care if she’s a headliner or not…
I want to answer your question in my blog because I really feel like I want to explain this to you. You don’t understand that most adult actresses are total regular people in their personal lives. Yes, they kind of have a weird little job but when they go home after work they want and need the same things a civilian girl would ask for.
Speaking for myself I am never interested in “hooking up”. If I like somebody I will let them know and I need to find somebody interesting in their personality and their character as well. In the end this is totally random and how could you ever explain why two people fall for each other. because they are attracted to each other? because they just click?
Most guys who end up being with a porn star never planned it. It just happens to be that way because they met her somewhere and they liked her enough to give her the benefit of the doubt that even beyond her kind of work they could see all that she has to offer ( and not just talking about the obvious).
you seem to think that just because somebody is a “porn star” all they are about is of a sexual nature. That’s not true. Most girls want some attention, somebody that asks how their day was or gives them a call just to hear their voice. So if you are ever in a position that you want to go out with a “porn star” just try to treat her like you would treat any other girl. Don’t ask her too many questions about her work. If she wants you to know, she will tell you. give her the feeling that you care for her and trust her and also that you would stand up for her, that you will be there for her if she needs a friend.
if you just want a fuck buddy, I don’t know what to tell you. Just go to bars and clubs and keep trying. It seems to me that you only want to get with her simply cuz she’s a porn star. Most girls in my business will not appreciate that. When they go home from work, they take off their stripper heels and fishnets, throw on a sweater, put their hair in a pony tail and hope that somewhere along the way there will be a genuine guy who really, truly likes them for who they are as a person.
and one more thing: we have too much senseless, brainless and meaningless “banging” at work so all we mostly want is somebody that cares. just think about it.