Once upon a time, the discussion of anal sex was a touchy subject for some women, but times have changed. That being said, it should still be treated delicately. 

How does one bring up the proposal of butt stuff? If it’s with your longtime lady, it will be a breeze (I mean not always.), but what if it’s a relatively new relationship? Well, I hope this article can shed some light and turn your partner’s sarcastic frown upside down. 

I would suggest trying the direct approach and straight up asking her if it’s something she is interested in trying. Being polite and reassuring her that things will go according to her comfort level will go a long way. In the end, plenty of women actually end up loving it.

Most importantly, USE LOTS OF LUBE! As I woman, I can attest to the fact that it will not be pleasurable the first time if you jump in dry… LIKE AT ALL! Get a water-based lube of your choice and oil that baby up. The less uncomfortable it is for her, the more likely she will be to want to do this again.

Take it slow. There’s no need to rush things, and she’ll appreciate you for it later. Let her take charge of the pace and degree of penetration.

Finally, BE PATIENT. If she completely shuts you down, don’t push the subject. You can bring it up in the future, but never, I repeat, never be pushy. Sometimes a little time is all it takes for her to come around.

I hope this article has provided you with a few helpful tips. If not, oh well. I tried haha.

A healthy sex life is an essential part of any successful relationship.  Whether you’re in a new romance or have been together for years, the seasonal stress can get the best of us and put a damper on our sex lives.  But here’s the good news: We’ve got the solution!  Put the wrapping paper down.  Finish the cleaning later.  Take a moment to think of yourselves and your needs.  Allow us to share a few suggestions on how to spice up your sex life this holiday season.

Play the “strangers” game.  Meet up in a random place like a restaurant or bar for ex. and pretend you are meeting for the first time.  You can even go as far as making up new personas for yourselves.  Drive somewhere you’ve never been and create new identities.  Be sure to stay in character all night.  The possibilities are endless.

SEXT SEXT & SEXT SOME MORE.  Swap sexy texts or nudes throughout the day to work yourselves up for a fun-filled evening.  Honestly, what’s better than having a visual of what you have to look forward to later that night?

Cook together.  Sounds boring right?  Well, it doesn’t have to be.  Make things interesting by sharing sexual favours while the other prepares part of the meal.

Spend a night at a hotel.  Sometimes all you need is the change of scenery.  Spending some time together without the constant reminder that you have chores to get done will ease your mind and help you get into the mood.

Sex Wishlists.  Write sexy wish lists with things you want your partner to do to you.  Then spend the night completing each other’s lists together.

Happy Holidays!

& you’re welcome :p